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Inner Game

3 Ways to Avoid Being a Victim

victimIn today’s lesson, I’ve got a really important tip for you.

Ready?

Don’t be a victim.

Hey Moguls, Matt Andrews here with some tough love. It may seem kind of harsh, but you need to hear it and follow my advice.

See, victims never win. Feeling sorry for yourself, feeling down in the dumps – it’ll never do you any good. Pity party of one? No thanks!

You must know that this business is all about what works… and being a victim simply doesn’t get you anywhere.

Remember Occupy Wall Street? A bunch of ‘victims’ out on the streets. Did that do those people any good? Um, no.

What does work?

Being proactive, taking responsibility for yourself and taking action can affect massive change.

So, today, I’m sharing 3 suggestions to save yourself from being a victim and to become a high achiever.

#1: Stop Thinking About Yourself So Much

“Some people create their own storms, then get upset when it rains.”
~Anonymous

The victim mentality is totally selfish.

If you feel or act like the world owes you something or has done something to you… or your mom did something to you or your friend…

You are thinking way too much about yourself. You’re self-absorbed.

Know that not everything is about you. The victim mentality is selfish thinking. Snap out of that.

“If you live your life as if everything is about you, you will be left with just that. Just you.”
~Anonymous

#2: Carefully Write Down the Worst-Case Scenario

“Don’t spend a lot of time imagining the worst-case scenario. It rarely goes down as you imagine it will, and if by some fluke it does, you will have lived it twice.”
~Michael J. Fox

Literally, grab a pen and paper and write down the absolutely worst thing that could possibly happen.

Why?

Because once you do that and see it in writing and think about it for a minute, you’ll likely realize that your worst case is not as bad as you thought.

Here are 2 common examples:

  • Let’s say your end buyer falls through. What now? Well, work quickly to find another one from your buyer’s list.
  • Or, what if your leads dry up? You could simply try a different marketing method.

prisonNot so bad, right?

See, what’s really scaring us is the unknown. And if you remove that, you can look at a problem or concern objectively.

This will help you look at situations the way they really are – instead of listening to what the media tells you or what your friends are saying or the doomsday inner monologue that’s in your head about a challenge you’re facing.

Listening to all that noise isn’t helping you grow.

Writing down your concerns and worst-case scenarios helps you get out of your head and away from that mentality of victimhood. Accept personal responsibility and head straight toward your goals, friends.

“Confronting the worst-case scenario saps it of much of its anxiety-inducing power.”
~Oliver Burkeman

#3: Plan and Implement Your Plan of Action

                         “The path to success is to take massive, determined actions.”
                                                              ~Tony Robbins

When you’re moving forward, you don’t have a lot of time to look back.

By looking forward and taking action, you’ll be empowered and efficient. And you know what? You won’t ever play the victim again.

Sure mistakes may happen along the way, but you’ll learn from those mistakes and do better next time. Always learning. Always growing.

Have integrity. Attack your goals. Bust through obstacles.

You need to stand as opposition to those people who say ‘Poor, little me… I can’t help myself, it’s the government, it’s the market…’ That doesn’t work.

Don’t be a victim. Accept responsibility and head toward success – and that will make your real estate investing business explode.

Speak Up

How do you avoid being a victim? Share below.

Do It To It! Immediate Action Steps

Take responsibility - don’t play the victim.

Stop being so selfish and self-absorbed.

Write down your worst-case scenarios so you’ll see that they’re not that bad and you can actually resolve them should they happen.

Take action now. Today.
 

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