Today, we’re talking about dirty words. Yep, words that we shouldn’t be thinking much less saying.
Not those dirty words… go get your head out of the gutter, because I’m referring to a different kind of dirty word.
Hey Moguls, JP Moses here, and I just got done doing an interview for a fascinating and exciting Mogul Live Training Call. It was with Peter Kolat called How to Freaking Stop Sabotaging Yourself. (Make sure you check it out!)
One of the really interesting things we talked about in that interview are 7 words he feels are causing people to self-sabotage. And I whole-heartedly agree with Peter – these are words we must recognize and stop saying. Basically, drop them from your vernacular right now.
After soaking up all the goodness from this interview, my next thought was that this information would make a terrific Mindset Monday lesson to shine the spotlight on the 7 ‘dirty’ words.
So, here we go...
The 7 Cancerous Words
#1 “Should”
We’re guilty of saying things like this...
“I should do this…” or “I should do that.”
Instead of saying “I should,” say: “I choose to do this.”
Recognize that you have a choice in how you react to people. You have a choice in how you react to situations. Make your actions a matter of choice.
#2 “Can’t”
The word can’t is a disabling word; a self-limiting word.
One of the best ways to reframe it is to turn it from a statement to a question: “How can I?”
Once you begin asking, How can I? your mind starts working toward the answer… toward a solution.
#3 “Try”
The word try can become an escape trap. It is a noncommittal word.
“I try to pick up the phone and call sellers.”
“I try to set up a marketing plan.”
You can’t try—you either do it or you don’t!
If you were to pick up a pen right now, you cannot try to drop it on the floor. Either you drop it or you don’t. Don’t try. Do.
#4 “Just”
The word just is a weak word that is meaningless.
“I just wanted to call…”
“I just wanted to say…”
This type of wording places you in a weak position. Take the word out; skip it.
#5 “But”
Take but out of your conversation. You already have one, and you don’t need another.
It causes you to negate all you’ve said previously.
Take out the word but, and replace it with and. What follows after is completely changed. It is no longer negative or limiting. It allows your mind to start looking for solutions.
#6 “Hate”
Hate is a strong, negative word. There are very few things in life that you should hate, and it’s best to reserve the word for those specific occasions.
For this one, it’s not so much a word replacement, but rather spinning the idea to a polar opposite…
If you hate a certain type of despicable behavior, just reframe that thought or idea to think of a behavior that you can admire and promote.
#7 “Impossible”
If you look at a certain thing as being impossible, then it will be impossible to you. You will never conquer what you think is impossible.
This word could be reframed to say, “It’s nearly impossible.” This gives you an option – and an ability to look at what can be possible.
It opens opportunities to search for solutions.
Let Me Break it Down
A quick summary note…
This is not a lesson on how to be legalistic about how you talk. However, it is a heads up, awareness lesson for self-check.
It’s important to be aware that how you think affects how you talk, and how you talk will eventually affect your actions.
If making a few strategic adjustments in your language has the potential to affect your actions, and then, in turn, affect your profit margin, wouldn’t it be well worth it to make the changes? (I hope you’re saying YES! Or at least nodding your head.)
Your Take
What are some words (or phrases) that you’ve realized are causing limiting beliefs in your life? Are they words you’ve eliminated from your vocabulary? Your input helps us all grow together.
Be intentional about self-talk awareness.
Take action to reframe (or replace) your self-sabotaging words.
Understand the importance of eliminating negative, self-sabotaging words from your language (and thoughts), which can have a direct impact on your actions.
JP Moses
is a real estate investor in Memphis, TN, with experience ranging from land lording to note buying, rehabbing, and wholesaling. However, wholesaling is the area that he enjoys most and where he bring the most experience and expertise to his students.