One of the things that I teach is to focus on living an abundant life. Sometimes it’s difficult for my students to even know what an “abundant life” is…
They can’t get in touch with what brings them joy or makes them feel full because they have become so involved in building what brings them a sense of significance. They have lost touch with their heart.
Hey Moguls, Steve Cook here and as a man of God, I want my life to be defined by making a difference for Him. The risk I run is that I can give so much of myself to building my work, that I forget to take the time to build my heart.
If I don’t take care of my heart, it will shrink, and sometimes to the point where I can’t find it anymore. (Of course, I’m speaking metaphorically and I’m discussing the emotional capacity of our hearts rather than its physical size.)
Some of you may not agree with me, and that’s okay…
We are all going to view things differently.
Some of you have different goals for your lives that look completely different than mine, but in the end, if we could get to the bottom of everyone’s goals, I would suspect that deep down inside we’re all seeking joy.
That joy is going to be tied to relationships.
Deep, heartfelt relationships. Some of us who have been hurt may say that we don’t care about relationships - I know I’ve been there. But those simple words of mine were a cry for real and authentic relationships.
Digging Deep
The deeper I went into my work, the more I oppressed my heart, the further away it brought me from the point of being able to experience those relationships.
This was a very dangerous place in my life, and it is dangerous for anyone who finds themselves there. It’s a scary place to be because it is at this point that we would consider doing things that we never imagined we would be doing before...
It’s a time that we will do anything to fill the desperate need that must be filled, and it’s during these times that we find ourselves the emptiest of all. It’s painful when this need is not being met.
The longer we neglect this, the more difficult it becomes to find our heart. We can find ourselves in a place where we can no longer even identify why we feel the way that we do.
I know of someone who in their greatest success, their time of utmost significance, their pinnacle that they strove so hard to reach - simply broke down crying, alone...
They spent so much time building what they thought would make them significant that they gave no time to building and maintaining their heart. Their greatest moment of achievement was the lowest point in their life because their heart did not have the capacity to share it with anyone, which ultimately is what they desired.
Build Your Heart
We must work on building our heart.
It starts by putting boundaries in place and giving time to build it. This is one of the biggest principles I teach.
We must guard our time and not give it all away to other things, but take some of it for ourselves, to work on ourselves. We must be able to identify the things that help us to build our hearts rather than diminish them – and we must practice these steps.
For me, I take quiet time regularly. I also like taking walks. These seemingly simple activities are what keep my heart in check.
At the end of my days, I don’t want to have had the biggest company or the biggest ministry with the smallest heart.
Share
How do you build your heart? Share below.
Spend some quiet time each and every day to ground yourself by focusing on what’s truly important.
Prioritize so you’re not always entrenched in your business and thus neglecting your heart and personal life.
Seek joy and meaningful relationships.
Steve Cook
was a nationally recognized real estate investing educator, author and real estate investor, prior to teaching Lifeonaire life coaching system. Today he is regarded as "The Coaches' Coach." Many of the people who have been coached by Steve have become coaches themselves, eager to share what they have learned with others.