“The ordinary man is passive. Against major events he is as helpless as against the elements. So far from endeavoring to influence the future, he simply lies down and lets things happen to him.”
~ George Orwell (1903-1950); Famous journalist, political writer, and novelist.
“The reasonable man adapts himself to the world; the unreasonable one persists in trying to adapt the world to himself. Therefore all progress depends on the unreasonable man.”
~George Bernard Shaw (1856-1950); Pulitzer Prize Winner 1925.
“Why are there so many Georges?”
~Preston Ely (birthdate unknown – he may be an angel); Once got thirteen girls’ phone numbers in one day
Stop being a pansy. That is dating/pick-up expert David D’Angelo’s message to men all around the world. Women are sick of pansies. How do I know he said this? Because I’ve bought everything he has ever produced, and I’m not embarrassed to say it at all. He is a genius. The whole why-are-you-dieting-when-you’re-already-so-skinny? thing applies here. Plus I had temporary dreams of becoming a professional pick-up artist at one point and time.
Money doesn’t seem to like pansies much either. It tends to not come around them too often. Most pansies I know are so broke they can’t even pay attention.
You’re Not a Pansy – Are You?
My vitamin for your mind this week actually applies to you too, ladies. (If you’re in business that is.) And it has nothing at all to do with the Venutian Arts – although I actually have a lot I could say on that subject. We’ll save that for another life.
My message to you this week is simply this: Stop being so dang nice.
Nice people are broke. Every time. And broke people can’t feed their children. I don’t call that “nice”.
Modern culture often confuses “niceness” with “goodness” when, in all actuality, those two terms couldn’t be farther apart in meaning. I’ll be “good” as often as possible. I’ll be “nice” rarely.
Sound mean?
Consider that the common “nicety” is really no more than a counterfeit expression of kindness rooted in fear – with the intent of making sure you like me so that my weak pansy ego doesn’t suffer. Nine times out of ten “nice” people are actually “manipulative” people.
“Good” people tell it like it is, with an ounce of grace. They could care less what people think. And I didn’t copy that out of a textbook or any other thing for that matter. It came right out of me (and, frankly, I’m pretty impressed with it)!
“I do not receive honor from men.”
– Jesus
“Good” people are strong. “Nice” people are weak. “Good” people have power to help others. “Nice” people have only words to talk about helping others. “Good” people have true wisdom, which manifests itself in a prosperous and meaningful life. “Nice” people have mere head-knowledge, which manifests itself in me making fun of you in my Mogul lessons. :-)
Hey, You,
Stop Being So Nice
Toughen up. Stop allowing others to have their way with you all the time. They only do it because you let them. This is YOUR world. YOUR reality. Act like it!
Did you know that you are experiencing life right now exactly the way you want to experience it? Why do you want things so difficult? What purpose is that serving for you subconsciously? Why do you believe the things you believe about life? Is it because your parents raised you that way?
It is time for you to start taking control of your life. No one is going to do this for you. Get angry for once. Shoot, I’m angry every darn day. I’m mad right now, for crying out loud. I’m mad at everything that causes anyone to suffer in this life, and I’m out to fix it.
I’m doing my part. Are you? Or are you sitting around complaining about your life, when it’s mostly your fault in the first place?
I honestly could write a hundred pages right now. One day I will, and you’ll see it at the bookstore for $21.39. I like odd numbers.
Who is Leading Whom?
Let me wrap-up by clueing you in on a common social dynamic – one that you may not be aware of…
Whenever two or more people are in the same room together, or on the phone conversing, or whatever, something very important is going on that you need to know. And that something is this:
Each person is trying to figure out who the leader is.
Did you know that? It’s true.
And here is the interesting part: Whoever believes the strongest that he is the leader, gets to be the leader. The person who believes in their own reality the strongest wins every time. Their reality becomes everyone’s reality. And that person is rarely referred to as “nice”.
And he or she is never ever a pansy.
So here’s the bottom line… You being a pansy is total bullcrap, and everyone around you is sick of it. Including me.
Stop it!
Consider this mental surgery on your dome. The pansy has got to go.
On the count of three, I want you to get real ticked off, and scream the following words – PANSY, BE GONE! Just picture a pansy spirit that looks like Michael Jackson moonwalking out of your body, and then punch yourself in the face. Ready? One, two, three…
PANSY, BE GONE!
Feel better?
Be Proactive – Understand that the average man (and woman) is passive, and only proactive people get to shape the world around them.
Stop Being So Nice – Stop allowing others to have their way with you all the time. (They only do it because you let them.)
Believe In Your Vision for the Future – Believe in your vision for the future, and do it more passionately than everybody else.
Preston Ely
is a real estate investor, serial entrepreneur, life coach, musician and philanthropist. CEO of Real Freedom, Inc, one of the most influential internet-based information publishers in the world, owns the largest Anytime Fitness Gym in the United States, is recording a music album with Atlantic Records, sits on the board of Advocates Of Love Orphanage, and has a non-profit charity assisting the poor and oppressed in Cuba with both their physical and spiritual needs.
With over 200,000 subscribers to his email newsletter, he is rapidly fulfilling his mission on earth, which is to glorify God by setting people physically, mentally, financially, and spiritually free through his music and his message of FREEDOM. Preston is 37 years old, lives in Tampa, FL with his wife Ashley, where he spends most of his time reading, writing, and practicing mixed martial arts.